Be a PAL


The only way to successfully own your future is by having effective conversations… Conversation with oneself followed by conversations with friends and family addressing these Seven Essential Conversations:

#1  What are my hope, fears and wishes for the future?

#2  Which legal documents do I need to carry out my wishes?

#3  How much money do I have? — How will I pay for care when I need it?

#4  Who will advocate and care for me?  For whom will I care?

#5  When should I right-size to a smaller home, retirement or independent living community?  Who can help me sort this out?

#6 What is my legacy?  How do I want to be remembered?

#7  What are my end of life plans?

Thinking through & having each one of these conversations before a health crisis — at the kitchen table rather than in the ICU — will help you and your loved ones make decisions based on what you value most without stress and/or fear.


PALS Seminars / Workshops & Events

PALS’ no-cost educational seminars, workshops and special events provide up-to-date information, resources and opportunities for owning your future, engaging in essential conversations and combatting isolation well before a major health event occurs. To be included in upcoming seminar, workshop or special event invites, please provide your contact information by clicking the JOIN button below. 

PALS Death Cafe

Offered on the first Thursday of each month, PALS Death Cafe is a group-directed discussion about death and dying that ultimately helps people to make the most of their finite lives. It’s not a counseling or bereavement group, and there’s no agenda, specified topics, or designated outcomes.  Join the conversation. Bring your curiosity and questions and engage in a discussion about the aspects of death and dying that interest you. To be included in monthly Death Cafe invites, please provide your contact information by clicking the JOIN  button below.


The PALS CAFÉ began during the 2020 Covid Pandemic and continues to meet weekly via ZOOM every Wednesday from 4-5 pm Pacific Time.  This is the place where hearts are warm and souls smile after enjoying heaping servings of friendly conversation and facilitated discussion on issues important to LGBTQ+ seniors — with some zany topics, too! To be included in weekly PALS CAFE invites, please provide your contact information by clicking the JOIN button below.


PALS Circle

Create a weekly in-person or virtual get together with other PALS to encourage more personal conversation, expand your circle of friends and minimize loneliness, while having a few laughs, too.  Invite 6-8 family members or friends to  discuss the Seven Essential Conversations, encourage each other to take action, while enjoying each others company and support.  For helpful guidelines on how to start a PALS Circle, click on the link below.